I sat among friends at a Bible Study when I first remember the words. “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” It made me pause. Tears welling in my eyes.
Why does it feel that He has?
I’ve heard this statement many times over the years – the last time was only a few months ago. Those words seem to flow from the lips of believers. It seems the easy thing to say when someone is hurting. I have learned some valuable lessons in my life, one of which is to not believe those words. I won’t say it and I won’t believe it any longer.
God does give us more than we can handle. God will continue to, as well. How do I know? Just look to the Bible.
God Gave Them More Than They Could Handle
Joseph, through no fault of his own, was made a slave and then thrown in jail. He suffered miserably for years. It was God who gave him the power to interpret dreams which was the reason he not only got out of prison but was made second to the King of Egypt. It was all part of a greater plan to save God’s chosen people from dying of starvation during the famine that struck the land. (Genesis 41)
Elijah was given more than he could handle when Queen Jezebel was trying to have him killed. He ran from her, in a great depression, not knowing where to turn. Though at one time he lived by the power of God, in this instance he fled to a mountain to be alone in his sadness. It was there that the Lord met him and instructed him on what to do. (1 Kings 19)
David was a shepherd boy who faced lions and bears. Why? Was that something a little boy should have to handle? A little boy who would one day become king? He was given these challenges so that one day he would have the faith and the courage to face a giant named Goliath. Through these hardships, his faith grew exponentially. (1 Samuel 17:34)
Paul was given more than he could handle as he sat in a prison cell – a slave for Christ. He says in 2 Corinthians 12:
“If I wanted to boast, I would be no fool in doing so, because I would be telling the truth. But I won’t do it, because I don’t want anyone to give me credit beyond what they can see in my life or hear in my message, even though I have received such wonderful revelations from God. So to keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Cor. 12:6-9
James 1: 2-4 says, “Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”
Reasons Why God Gives Us More Than We Can Handle
We are given more than we can handle to refine us.
We are given more than we can handle to grow us spiritually.
We are given more than we can handle to rid us of sin.
We are given more than we can handle to teach us patience and perseverance.
We are given more than we can handle to humble us.
We are given more than we can handle to teach us the power of prayer.
We are given more than we can handle so that we can see God’s power.
We are given more than we can handle so that we can experience God’s mercy.
The Truth About What We Need to Handle
It was never about what we can handle. Those of us who are believers should know this, but instead, we fall into the ways of this world. We want to carry on our shoulders those things which only God was meant to carry. We aren’t called to the be smartest, strongest, coolest, richest people in the world – we aren’t supposed to outwit, outlast, outplay others. We are called to be humble. To love God. We are called to follow Jesus. To depend on Him for our every need.
Some may confuse the verse in 1 Corinthians with this idea. “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 This speaks of sin and temptation, not on life circumstances and trials.
God wants us to get to the end of ourselves – and then to leap with eyes of faith -leap to Him. Then we will see – and only then we can know that it was always God handling everything anyway. So stop trying to carry everything and give it to God. We can not only hope in the Lord but we can trust that, “He who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.” Philipians 1:6
Look to God’s Word
When you feel that you need to step up and “handle” whatever it is in your life, remember these verses and keep them with you as a reminder that God doesn’t want us to handle anything – He wants us to give it all to Him.
This is a lesson I am still learning every day. I need constant reminders to “give it to God”. My control freak nature causes me to have trouble remembering this. I don’t have the strength to handle all of the problems I’ve faced. Through them, I have been broken, I have been shaped, I have learned, I have seen God move and work in extraordinary ways.
More Than I Could Handle
I lost my mom to cancer when I was 23 – just months after giving birth to my firstborn.
I witnessed my oldest son drift away as autism took hold.
I’ve struggled with schooling and behavior for him.
I’ve hurt to see the loss of family relationships – a brokenness that runs deep.
And the health problems that perplex.
So much anxiety that riddles.
Job loss and financial burdens.
Fighting bitterness and loss.
But through it all He is faithful. Through it all he carries. Through it all God is God. It is good to look over our trials and triumphs and see just how God has truly carried us through.
My first guest post features one such trial: one that God has carried my friend and her family through.
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andi says
Phil. 4:19 – I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me – if He gives it to us, He will equip us to do it 😀
andi says
i meant Phil. 4:13 – sorry….
Sasha says
So true!!!
Matilda says
This is so true; it hurts when someone throws it in your face that God cannot give you more than you can handle. However, we always come out more refined. Then we realize it was good to go through the fire.
Sasha says
Matilda – I totally agree. Thanks for stopping by!
Mardene Carr says
If it is not more than we can handle how will we learn to trust and lean on him….great post
Sasha says
Yes! Thank you Mardene!!!
Horace W. says
What a thought provoking post Sasha! This is such a beautiful reminder of what God tells us in His word. Thanks so much for sharing with Grace & Truth. After surviving a stroke, I am learning that God wants us to depend on him and not try to “manage in our own strength”. I am beyond thankful for this realization as I humble myself so that He can mold me into the man He desires to glorify Him. Thanks again for this beautiful post. I love your site and your writing style. I am now a subscriber! May God continue to bless you and yours in all your endeavors. Have a wonderful weekend!
Sasha says
Horace,
Thank you for sharing your story! I’m so glad you found this blog and have subscribed. 🙂 Have a great weekend!
Sasha
Tyra says
Sasha,
Sweet friend thank you for shedding some light on this truth. This saying is thrown around so much in church, I believe some may even think its biblical but you’ve clearly cited example after example of those who were indeed given more than they can handle. I have a saying “When we come to the end of ourselves is when we actually get to the beginning of Jesus”. you essentially said the same thing. I keep telling God, “I’m on the edge Lord. I don’t want to fall”. He then showed me a clear picture of me free falling then some gigantic wings opened that I didn’t even know I had and I gracefully sailed on. You’ve confirmed here He’s waiting for me to take the leap. Blessing to you friend. I believe this is my 1st time here. Happy to be visiting from Grace & Truth linkup.
Sasha says
Tyra,
I’m so glad you found this blog! Thank you for sharing how God has spoken to you. I thought of Peter walking on the water as I was reading what you wrote. (Matthew 14) As long as we keep our eyes on Jesus, He will sustain us! Thank you for visiting and I hope you come back again.
Sasha
Sowjanya says
Sasha, glad I saw ur post today. It was a much needed comfort. Now I can understand and appreciate why God gives me more than I can handle. God bless you for being a blessing to many.
Sasha says
Sowjanya – Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving a comment – thank you for the kind words. I’m so thankful to hear that this ministered to you. God bless you, too.
AJ says
I really needed this reminder and encouragement! Please pray for me and my children! I am out of work with no income and 3 children to raise. We all have various health issues! My problem is that when I do give things and situations to God I take them back on myself by worrying and trying to figure things out. I owe so much money to cards and hospitals. This was so sudden and unexpected and doctors are trying to help figure out how to “fix” and heal us. I could take it better if it only affected me but to watch my kids suffer is awful. I pray. I feel stupid because I have known the Lord for so long and have tried to keep faith but I am on the edge. The devil even makes it hard for me to pray or read my scripture now and I know it’s what he wants and I am asking the Holy Spirit to help me fight and stay faithful and keep thoughts of suicide and giving up out of my mind. So please pray for my strength and for my children to keep their faith strong as well. Thank you!
Sasha says
AJ – Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I will definitely be praying for you. I know what you mean about the struggle – spiritual warfare is very real. I also know he promises to give us wisdom (James 1:5), to those who ask… I will be praying for you and your children.
Nannette and the Sweetheart says
I found you through Grace & Truth and am glad I did.I TOTALLY agree with you on this phrase! And I am in agreement about the verse on TEMPTATION, not trials. I just blogged on this exact same thing a couple of months ago. It grieves me to hear people tell weary worn Christians this, especially when they feel as if they are at the bottom of a frayed rope just barely hanging on. God will be our strength and our comfort and maybe even deliver us from a trial or hardship but the important thing is that we will become stronger through our weakness and He will become magnified! Blessings. ♥
Sasha says
Nannette – That’s awesome that you blogged on the same topic! It is so hard to hear those words … especially in the midst of a trial.